Having Kinder Conversations using Technology

Having Kinder Conversations using Technology
Blog Writers - Mon Apr 01, 2013 @ 03:50PM
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We've all received a text message or email that, in our opinions, sounds harsh. Though the person on sending it may not have meant it to come across as rude or mean, it does. With technology comes greater responsibility to remain honest, pure, friendly, loving, and kind to those you talk with. Consider this: Kate emails her friend Jennifer in a friendly manner: "Hey Jen, It's been so long! I would love to talk to you on the phone! Call me today if you can please. Love, Kate." Jen picks up the message on her iPhone after swimming lessons and texts back, "Srry can't talk rite now." How do you think Kate feels? Though what Jen is saying is true, don't you think Jen could've said it nicer? If Kate was to phone Jen and ask to talk, Jen probably would've responded in a friendlier tone. But, with texting and emails, sometimes the messages are so brief (and curt) that the receiver could translate it into anything. For example, though Jen was trying to be honest, and was not trying to be mean or angry, it came across to Kate as Jen being mean and rude and not wanting to talk to her. See what I mean? 

Here are some tips to have kind, edifying conversations using technology. This is by no means an exhaustive list of things you should/ shouldn't do, but I hope it will give you pointers :)

>> Check over your emails/text messages before you send them. Better yet, get a parent to read them and see if they sound polite. 

>> If you get a text like Jen did from Kate, and you are in the middle of something (as Jen was), it's best not to respond right then and there. 

>> Always say Hi and the person's name at the beginning of any email. It is so much more polite, and it sets a friendly tone for your email. (I admit sometimes I forget to say hi, and looking through the emails I have written, the ones where I have said "Hi _____!" appear way friendlier.

>> A formal, rather standard way to write emails is by asking, "How are you?" directly after the greeting. I like saying how are you because before you can tell what you have done, the places you have been, the way you feel, and what you had for dinner, it's putting one another ahead of yourself! Philippians 2:3-4 explains, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others." Remember to ask the other person how they are, what they did, etc. It shows a respect and interest in others! Though you may be itching to tell your friend about your amazing trip to Texas, make it a priority to see how they are and what they did first. 

And me? How am doing in this area? Have I mastered being kind on technology? Have I perfected the art of asking how the other person is doing first? No!! I am still learning, by God's grace, in this area! But, day by day, I pray I will grow to be kinder and more conscientus of what I say so I don't hurt others. Will you join me in this quest? Together let's march forward to kinder, better technological conversations! 

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