A Biblical Method of Solving the Problem

A Biblical Method of Solving the Problem
Blog Writers - Mon Jun 11, 2012 @ 02:30PM
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Solve That Problem! 
It is inevitable that you will have fights and problems with your siblings.  I know for me it happens a lot (unfortanetley), but this is because we live in a sinful world and because we are sinful ourselves (Isaiah 53:6 and Romans 3:23). If it wasn't for the grace of God, we'd be wiped off the face of the earth for all the wrong things we've done!  Thankfully, God, in His marvelous wisdom, created a way for us to solve those problems that we deal with on a regular basis.  (One of those things just happens to be sibling rivalry.)  The Bible gives us clear instructions in Matthew 18.  So the next time a fight arises between you and your siblings, you'll be ready and prepared to solve it! 
Now the first thing you need to do is read Matthew 18:15-16: If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you.  If they listen to you, you have won them over.  But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses'. 
The next time you have a problem, use the steps below, based out of Matthew 18. 
1. Go talk to the sibling you are fighting with and point out their fault in private, with kindness.  (Keep in mind this is not going and sharing it will all of your friends, other siblings, etc.)  Tell them kindly what you think they did wrong, and make it clear that you forgive them.
If your sibling listens:  The matter is cleared.  Generally they will ask forgiveness at this point, but remember, even if they don't, forgive them.  It's important that you forgive your brother/sister. You have solved the problem!
If your sibling does not listen: The matter is not cleared.  Move onto step 2.
2. Take your parents with you and go talk again to the offender (brother/sister). 
If your sibling listens:  The matter is cleared; the problem is solved; be sure to give hugs and make the offender feel forgived.
If your sibling still does not listen: Your parents will need to deal with the problem, since you did your duty, as the Scriptures say.  
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